There is the major reason that so many people end up in the divorce court; the belief that relationship problems are bad while no conflict and no arguments is good.
So according to this view, when bad times hit it means that things are no longer good.

But the reality is that nothing could be further from the truth. It’s the opposite that is true.

This so much gush around about how wonderful things can be, how you can think yourself into a positive wonderful life, how you can just love yourself and be true to yourself and everything will just magically work out. Basically that is all true …. but ….. along the way there comes a time when you’ve got to deal with tough stuff stuff in your life. And that time comes before you can break through into the wonderful and amazing life that you so much desire.

Yes the fabulous life and relationship you yearn for is there for you but it’s not going to happen if you don’t deal with some of your emotional junk.

Why?  Because when you deal with the bad stuff you make way for the good stuff. Without the bad stuff blocking you the good stuff can literally flood into your life. All you have to do is survive the bad stuff and then it gets easy.

So if you want to have a really good life or a really good relationship, go into the tough stuff, take it on, deal with it, and then let the good times roll.
If this is what happens when you and your partner are communicating together, then your relationship is being run by victim-thinking and as such, it is unlikely to be going forward. As there is no such thing as staying still, if your relationship is not going forward it must be going backwards.