What Others Say

February 5th 2020. My ex-partner and I had a daughter who was 8 years old. We had not been together since she was born but we kept contact in our role as parents. None of my relationships we great; I couldn’t settle down and was having a new boyfriend about every year, plus I was moving from place to place. The only two consistent things in my life3 were my daughter and her father (Mark). When Mark started seeing you I noticed he became more open to talking about things and he told me that the work he was doing included writing. He suggested I should do that same which I did. This was when we became closer both as friends and parents. One night our daughter was very ill and Mark invited me to stay over and to start working with the psychologist he was working with — you.
I found this to be really confronting at first, especially during the first meeting when I felt I was being pushed. Now, I realise that this was nevertheless the help I needed to help me push through the hard times. At the time I was really depressed, feeling major anxiety and pushing everyone away because I was terrified of getting closer to anyone.
The healing began when I could feel it all from a totally new and different perspective. It was great knowing how it worked plus how to actually put it into practice. This is what allowed me to breakthrough … lots of times.
3 years later and all of the really hard work is still paying off big-time. We’re still living together and we’re planning to continue doing this.  We have just had a new baby (now 8 months old) and I don’t think we would have survived without the work we did with you Robert. 
In the beginning this was so hard. I started to feel insecure and deeply depressed again, made worse because Mark was heading down the same old drug path again.
But this time we had tools to deal with it. We talked about it openly and honestly and realised we were not going anywhere like this … except down 
So we started talking and listening to each other and we went deeper into ourselves than either of us had ever gone before. No blame, no fault finding, no making people wrong.  And this time we handled it so that now things are better than they’ve ever been before … ever.

Rachael Pierre Humbert

March 4th 2020: Before I met you I was stuck on a merry-go-round. I was looking for a solution and not getting anywhere. Inside my head was full of anxiety. I was always feeling tired, my body was in pain and I had a constant feeling of fatigue. The pain in my body was getting in the way of everything and it was my constant companion.

During the work we did we got to the heart of things. What worked for me was the beautiful blend of the practical and the spiritual. You have a very disarming and trusting heart plus a willingness to give of yourself.You knew what you were doing because you have obviously worked on your own stuff.

Now I’m relaxed, awake to my own needs, reactions and triggers. I feel more free, confident and trusting to not let nagging doubts overwhelm me. This is stuff I have been suffering for years and years. Right now I have strategies to deal with emotion. What’s important is the simple language which is incredibly powerful. Especially when something was really difficult you would say, “Don’t worry its all perfect” and that what it became.

One thing I really remember happened when I was in Thailand. I was talking about the chronic pain in my body. You said something like, “That pain is serious so you had better deal with it, otherwise it’s going to kill you.”

This really shocked me so I focused on it and now the pain is not there anymore … first time I can recall having no pain in my body since I was a child.

Before we met I was stuck on a merry-go-round. I was looking for a solution and not getting anywhere. My head was full of anxiety. I was feeling tired, I had constant fatigue and the pain in my body was getting in the way of everything. It was my constant companion.

You helped me get to the heart of things. What worked was the beautiful blend of the practical and the spiritual. You have a very disarming and trusting heart plus a willingness to give of yourself. You knew what you were doing because you have obviously worked on your own stuff.

Now I’m relaxed, awake to my own needs, reactions and triggers. I feel more free, confident and trusting to not let nagging doubts overwhelm me. This is stuff I have been suffering for years and years. Right now I have strategies to deal with emotion. What’s important is the simple language which is incredibly powerful. Especially when something was really difficult you would say, “Don’t worry its all perfect” and that’s what it became.

One thing I really remember happened when I was in Thailand. I was talking about the chronic pain in my body. You said something like, “That pain is serious so you had better deal with it, otherwise it’s going to kill you.” This really shocked me so I focused on it and now the pain is not there. This is the first time I can recall having no pain in my body since I was a child.

George Elisse, India

March 2nd 2020: Before we met I wasn’t accepting that Geoff (Late Husband) was gone. I had an overpowering guilt because I felt I had contributed to has death in some way. Looking back I know that was not the case, but at the time it was a powerful feeling. During our work together I opened up my soul. I have never talked to anyone like that in the past and this really got to the heart of things. Now I don’t have the guilt. I feel loved and supported and in peace with myself. Thank You.

Tracy Hounsell

March 3rd, 2020. Hey Rob how are you? Mark said something amazing to me yesterday and I just have to share with you. 
He told me that the night you very first called him he was filling up the bath with water and had razor blades ready to kill himself. Then you called and he started talking to you and drained the bath and pretty much hasn’t looked back since . Your ears must have been burning last night we were talking about how much you’ve changed our lives and how thankful we are to have had such a powerful guidance by you. I have talked about you to my client Loretta  and her friend I gave her your name so as to look you up on Facebook … I hope your doing well Rob . 
Talk to you whenever

Rach  

March 4th 2020. Before we met I didn’t want to live. I felt like killing myself And that there was no hope for anything and anyone. I was stuck in a world of shit and was never going to get anywhere, Drinking heaps of Alcohol every day and more on weekends. Dying was a good thought and I was a very sick person.

When we started working, my mindset was stuffed and there was no hope. You may remember, I tried to quit a few times but I kept coming back. You made me see there might be another way, and you kept persisting, even though I didn’t answer the messages lots of time, you never gave up. So I know I had to keep coming back. But I really wanted to walk away.

We had a psychic reading and in 30 minutes everything I didn’t want to know about myself was there. Everything we had spoken about was there. I’m still very sceptical By the way and I didn’t like the mother thing. However, now I have a reason to live. I communicate better, Rachael and I are are great and the two children are wonderful. We’ve still got stuff to get through of course but now we have strategies and we keep working on it. I also told my mother everything.

Mark Oates