Do you have people who really piss you off?
If you don’t, then my advice is to get a DNA test, because it’s possible you’re just not human. In my experience, there are two types of people; those who feel really pissed off by certain people, and those who refuse to admit this about themselves. Which one are you?
Perhaps that statement pisses you off. If it does, even if it’s just a little bit, then keep reading because this blog is about especially about you!
Personally, I can so easily get pissed off with people who are into blaming others.
I see these people as unwilling to take responsibility for what they do, preferring instead to spend their days making others wrong. What they are really doing is spreading their personal misery on to other innocent beings. That is just so unfair!
So, the question I had to ask myself is, “Why …? What is it about ‘blaming people’ that gets under my skin …? What is it that gets me so riled up?”
And the answer, and I don’t like this answer, is this is a personal unresolved issue that I need to deal with. I hate this about myself, and it’s the last thing I want to be reminded of it.
Yet, every day I see someone doing the blame thing and it’s despicable. I see red; how could they be so unfair? How dare they blame others for their own shortcomings.
After a time, I noticed something about myself; each time I think or say such things, I am trying to convince myself I would never do something as despicable as that! But I have failed; I haven’t been able convince myself. So now I’ve got to own it and I don’t want to do that either
And so it goes on … round and round in circles. By now I am addicted to the blame versus responsibility dilemma. Every day I keep noticing more and more people refusing to take responsibility for what they do, and I’m getting more and more pissed off.
The more I see it, the worse it gets, and the unwanted emotional pain keeps steadily rising regardless.
I am trapped and start looking for a solution?
I find one, but it’s not an easy one to begin with. I need to acknowledge that what I am seeing is a personal issue I have within me and one I need to resolve. I need to acknowledge this to myself each time I see someone being unfair to someone else; that what I am seeing is a personal unresolved issue that I have to deal with.
And that when I resolve the issue … I am free!
So Be It
To explore this further in your own life, feel free to make a time to talk with Robert Hilliar