WHY DO THIS?
HAVE YOU HAD ENOUGH DOING WHAT DOESN’T WORK? ARE YOU PUTTING IN TIME AND EFFORT BUT STILL GETTING NOWHERE?
The Personal Development Gurus get us to connect to something outside. This can have you feeling hopeful and excited in the beginning, until something goes wrong. Then it all comes undone, and often it’s worse than ever.
Or maybe you aren’t feeling right about yourself so you go to the doctor. You are prescribed medication which makes you feel a little better and you are hopeful that things are on the improve, until you realise things aren’t any better, so the significant doubts start to creep back in.
Perhaps you want to be drug-free so you go to a psychologist who provides personal therapy. In the beginning this feels great, until the pressure returns and you realise that nothing has really changed.
These are well-meaning interventions, but they come with a common theme; you are encouraged to rely on something that is not you (ie the drugs, the therapist, the guru etc). To connect to the outside, you have to disconnect away from the essence that is you.
This is not such a great idea in fact because when the going is tough the pressure is all on you, which is why the most effective and permanent interventions have to be all about you.
It is when you are 100% connected to yourself that you can achieve results that are profound and long-lasting.
So what do you do when the cracks begin to show, when the resentments and frustrations arise, and when you lose the spark of what you once had?
It’s ironic that the ones we love, provide for, and care about most are the ones most likely to bring this about in us when we stop connecting.
This is what intimate relationships do and the most difficult challenge is to work together on this stuff.
And work effectively together we must, because if we don’t, our once beautiful life turns into a toxic nightmare.
This is ‘point-horrible!’ This is you stuck in circumstances that are taking you down.
This will continue to feel like crap until you deal with it. This is why dealing with emotional stuff is so important.
It’s also why you need strategies powerful enough to handle overheated emotion, like when you’re breaking up or divorcing.
To help you get on the right track straight away, feel free to call me — Robert Hilliar to discuss your situation and make a plan for resolving emotional stuff (no obligation of course!).
If your life is in crisis the need is to resolve the blockages, otherwise emotion becomes even more toxic and life is even crappier.
DISCONNECTED AND HOPELESSLY STUCK:
This feels crap. You feel overwhelmed by things like anxiety, depression, anger, fear, low self-esteem, low self-confidence, lethargy, frustration and feelings of failure.
Life is full of arguments, conflicts, violence (physical/emotional/verbal), negative communication, and physical illness. It’s common for people to close down completely.
Behaviours are driven by fear, challenges are not resolved, and problems are avoided most of the time.
Problem-solving strategies include blame, fault-finding and attack.
This is a path of struggle, and the way forward is difficult.
SPIRITUALLY ALIGNED AND FREE:
This feels powerful. Your life is full of passion, peace, and purpose, and you feel joy, laughter, confident, vital, excited and successful.
Communication is powerful with lots of rational discussions, mutual support, intensive listening, plus stable physical health.
Behaviours are driven by high self-esteem and superb problem-solving abilities, where challenges get resolved.
Problem-solving strategies include responsibility, accepting ownership and being accountable for everything in your life.
Successes come without having to defeat others.