RENOVATE YOUR RELATIONSHIPSAND BECOME THE BEST YOU CAN EVER BE!
WHEN WE ARE KIDS, THE DREAM OF MEETING ‘THE ONE’ PERSON TO BE THE PARTNER OF OUR DREAMS … OUR SOUL MATE … IS ALREADY BEING MADE!
MANY YEARS LATER WHEN IT FINALLY HAPPENS, IT’S BLISS! … SO WE WORK HARD, SMART AND SUCCESSFULLY TO BUILD OUR WEALTH AND SECURE OUR FUTURE.
But after a while, cracks begin to show (of course). Things aren’t quite so rosy any more. Resentments and frustrations arise. We begin to lose the spark for this amazing person that we once loved more than ourselves, and now comes the question — DO I STAY OR DO I GO?
It’s just so ironic that those we love, provide for, and care most about, are the ones most likely to end up destroying us, simply because we stop connecting properly.
And the reason this happens is even simpler. The intimate partnerships that are supposed to be life-long relationships, breakdown when the partners relate with strategies that aren’t working now, that actually struggled to work in the past, and sure as hell are not going to work in the future.
But in the heat of the moment, we still stick with what we know. So, instead of deliberately navigating our way from strength to strength, we get stuck in the trial and error method. Eventually it gets too hard, and we feel forced to give in and give up.
But stop right there, because this is a not the way forward!
You see, when you’re about to lose it all, when you’re on the brink of BREAKING DOWN, you’re also on the brink of BREAKING THROUGH to something wonderful. This is when that horrible relationship is still perfectly on-track, doing precisely what it is supposed to be doing, and trying to get you to BREAK THROUGH?
It’s normal for every relationship to get to ‘point-horrible!’ It’s not breaking down, it’s trying to breaking through, and what it needs is a renovation.
A relationship can’t last long without change. They are like a new house; in the beginning it’s all new and shiny, but as time rolls on, it grows tired and needs a makeover.
Relationships need regular renovations, because if a relationship is not going forward, then it is going backwards, and that doesn’t feel so hot, as you probably know.
In backwards relationships, partners grow apart until eventually they feel they have no alternative but to get away from each other.
It feels like crap when things you believed could never happen to you — like being betrayed by love, let down by intimacy, stress through the roof, and financial pressures that make no sense — happen!!
The better way is hidden in plain sight. You need to understand why you do what you do, plus learn strategies that work, and keep dealing with stuff as it comes up.
Keep in mind that when happiness feels like it’s a million light-years out of reach, it’s possibly just a heartbeat away!
“How can I make this work?” I hear you ask.
Or maybe you’re wondering, “Why should mine be a relationship that survives against the odds?”
Can you believe that what we are talking about here is so powerful that in the face of certain divorce, things can be dealt with so you and your partner stay together and live more happily ever after than you ever thought possible?
Well, let’s have a quick chat,to see how this can apply to your unique circumstances. Make contact and I will give you at least one powerful strategy to get you moving in the right direction, straight away. The time to renovate your relationship is now, and the powerful way to do this is to take action immediately!
So, by the end of our chat, and regardless of what happens next, at the very least you’ll have the glimmer of hope that comes when your relationship first goes into renovation mode!
DISCONNECTED AND HOPELESSLY STUCK:
This feels crap because especially when they feeling is hopelessness. This is when anxiety, depression, anger, fear, low self-esteem, low self-confidence, lethargy, frustration and feelings of failure dominate.
This is a life full of arguments, conflicts, violence (physical, emotional and verbal), negative communication, and physical illness or perhaps you just close down completely.
Behaviours are driven by fear, challenges are not resolved, and problem-solving strategies are focused on avoiding problems whenever possible.
BELOW THE LINE strategies that include blame, fault-finding and attack drive decision-making.
This path is crap and the way forward is difficult to find.
SPIRITUALLY ALIGNED AND FREE:
This is a life dominated by passion, peace, and purpose where joy, happiness, laughter, self-confidence, high self-esteem, vitality, excitement and success run your life.
This is a life full of powerful conversations, rational discussions, mutual support, intensive listening, positive and open communications, and stable physical health.
Behaviours are driven by high self-esteem and superb problem-solving abilities, where challenges get resolved.
ABOVE THE LINE strategies include taking responsibility, accepting ownership and being accountable for what you do.
The risks are taken and you know how to win without necessarily having to defeat others.