Conflicts, traumas, hurts, personal issues, and stresses naturally arise in a relationship. Those experiences can strengthen our ties with one another, enriching our relationship as we recall the things we face hand-in-hand, deal with and overcome them together.

We think that when we attract our ideal partner, we will also have an ideal relationship, because our partner is Ideal.

The search for the ideal partner typically focuses upon looking for the ideal person with all the ideal desirable traits. Our initial criteria often comes down to superficial traits like good looking, funny, loving, loves to travel, go dancing, wants children, doesn’t want children …

But, the qualities that make a person an ideal partner may not be what you expected. The fact is life isn’t a fairy-tale and love doesn’t always go the way it does in stories and films.

You will know you have met your ideal mate because the emotions are running strongly in the negative direction, finding all the beliefs, emotions, thoughts and feelings that hold you back in your life.

The ideal partner may not be the ideal person about whom you are dreaming; rather, it is someone who challenges you in ways you didn’t foresee but will work with you, towards making you the best version of who you are.

Although we each seek out a specific set of qualities that is uniquely meaningful to us alone, there are certain characteristics both you and your partner can strive for that make the relationship much more likely for lasting success.

Your ideal partner is one who challenges you … someone who will push you past your own expectations and encourage you to explore your own capabilities

Pushes You to Succeed – This partner shows you that your life has value and that you are capable of much more than you even know.

Gives You Purpose and Direction – That person holds you accountable and lights a fire beneath you. They remind you of who you are and who you want to be.

Encourages You to Believe in Yourself – A partner who challenges you wants you to find happiness and direction. “The most perfect relationship is the one that supports you in fulfilling your destiny—the one that empowers you to be everything you are meant to be in this world and beyond.” Jan H. Stringer

Our partner is not a cure for all our problems, or for how good we feel about ourselves. There may be no such thing as the perfect partner, but an ideal partner can be found in someone who works towards developing themselves in certain ways that go beyond the surface – and provide you with an opportunity to do the same.