THE CHALLENGE TO RESOLVE AT THE SOURCE
RELATIONSHIPS ARE ABOUT YOU. ARE YOURS DESTROYING YOU OR ESCALATING YOU TO GREATER SUCCESS?
How emotionally connected are you to your partner, your friends, your family, your work colleagues and ultimately to yourself? Are you feeling challenged to move forward, to slide backwards or to just stay where you are …. stuck?
Relationships succeed when connectedness is open and they stay stuck with connectedness is closed.
Are you open to being profoundly connected, or so closed that your relationships turn into disaster zones?
If you’re relationship is stuck, take action before it is too late, and before your relationship goes more into ‘destroy mode’.
My goal is to help you make a plan. Of course I expect some will wish to continue which is great, but regardless of what happens, the first goal for everyone is to get moving forward now.
WHEN YOU ARE STUCK:
This feels crap, especially when there seems to be no hope. This is when anxiety, depression, anger, fear, low self-esteem, low self-confidence, lethargy, frustration and feelings of failure dominate.
These relationships are full of arguments, conflicts, violence – physical, emotional, and verbal, negative communication, and/or physical illness.
Behaviours are driven by fear, difficult challenges, and attempts to avoid problems whenever possible.
Strategies used include blaming, finding fault and attack.
This is not on a great path … however there is always a way forward even if it is difficult to see right now.
WHEN YOU ARE FREE:
This is the best feeling, especially when the joy, happiness, laughter, self-confidence, high self-esteem, vitality, excitement and success are all the go.
This is when you have powerful conversations, rational discussions, mutual support, intensive listening, positive and open communication, and stable physical health.
Successes and behaviours are driven by high self-esteem, confidence in your ability to handle problems and the confidence to take on challenges.
This is a productive path of personal growth and development. It happens when the strategies are in place for staying focused, for taking the right sort of risks and for making mistakes and winning through no matter what.