Assessment Welcome to the Your Relationship Rules Assessment. Please input your Name and Email to start the assessment. Name Email 1. HOW DO YOU USE HIGH LEVEL SPOOKY STUFF? This is a sure-fire way to find and be focused the things that really make a difference. Focusing your precious time and energy specifically on these things enables everything to fall into place! Using High Level Spooky Stuff is the best way to make certain your focus is where you need it to be. WHEN SOMETHING GOES WRONG ... I always trust inner hunches to guide behaviours and reactions. I sometimes trust inner hunches to guide behaviours and reactions. I am aware of inner hunches, but I hardly ever take notice of them. I believe my inner hunches will have destructive effects on behaviours and reactions. I find my inner hunches make behaviours and reactions totally destructive.2. HOW WELL DO YOU LISTEN? When you listen, just hearing the words and accepting what is being said without regard to what is really going on, is not going to work so well. Listening properly is the way to hear everything your partner is trying to say. The bonus is that when you listen properly, you are also earning the right to be listened to! WHEN SOMETHING GOES WRONG ... I listen intently and with empathy and totally understand what is being communicating. I listen well-enough to understand most of what is being communicated. I frequently get bored and stop listening because I've heard it all before. I cut in and what I want to say, because I know what they are going to say. I find myself being aggressive and/or yelling because I know what they are going to say.3. HOW DEEPLY DO YOU TALK ABOUT YOURSELF? The more you know about what’s really going on in each other’s inner psyche, the more the relationship is enabled to move forward. What you need to know is the stuff that comes from within, from your personal 'deep-down'. When you communicate from there you take the conversation to that place within that the answers you need for dealing with your challenges are. WHEN SOMETHING GOES WRONG ... I often talk about myself and feel comfortable and happy to be talking about my deepest thoughts and feelings. When I talk about myself I sometimes I talk my deepest thoughts and feelings. I sometimes talk about myself and I talk about my deepest thoughts and feelings when I feel I have to. I sometimes talk about myself and hardly ever talk about my deepest thoughts and feelings. I seldom talk about myself and never talk about my deepest thoughts and feelings.4. HOW WELL DO YOU DEAL WITH 'STUCKBURYS'? 'Stuckburys' are emotion issues that have been stuck inside for so long that they are now buried your 'deep-down'. The origins of these issues generally goes back to your childhood and until these are resolved, they are going to create irrational thoughts, feeling and behaviours. This is especially true during the most challenging times. Please understand that the logic of emotion is very different to ‘normal’ logic. As such you need to know the logic of emotion, so you have the means to clearly know what’s really going on. WHEN SOMETHING GOES WRONG ... At all times love flows easily, I keep my emotion in-control and I make rational decisions. Most of the time love flows easily, I keep my emotion in-control and I usually make rational decisions. Love sometimes does not flow, emotion is sometimes in-control and occasionally I make irrational decisions. Fear often takes over and when it does, it is a difficult problem to deal with. I often make irrational emotion decisions. Fear and emotion controls my life as I easily get angered and act aggressively. 5. HOW DO YOUR CHILDHOOD YEARS EFFECT YOU? We were all children once and our childhood care-givers were not perfect. They made mistakes, some end up influencing our life today. It is so easy to get trapped into living according to what we learned when we were growing up. This is something that must be sorted out before we can become free to be who we want to be. WHEN SOMETHING GOES WRONG ... The love and support between me and my original family is of great benefit to me today. I appreciate that my original family did their imperfect best, and I hold no grudges. My original family were not perfect and I handle this by putting it out of my mind so I can get on with life. Some experiences I had when I was in the care of my original family are having a toxic effect on me today. I hate my original family, I don’t forgive them and sometimes I don't care what happens to them.6. HOW WELL DO YOU TURN PROBLEMS INTO OPPORTUNITIES? Problems usually feel unpleasant, yet most are nothing less than brilliant opportunities in the making, and trying to come into your life. Being able to grasp these opportunities is what makes relationships great. The best way to do this is be working together to transform the flow of problems into the opportunities can be as these arise. WHEN SOMETHING GOES WRONG ... I find opportunities in every problem and I take these on when I can. This is how I move forward. I deal with most of problems well and sometimes doing this leads onto something better I deal with problems as best I can and usually do not major problems to deal with. I find many problems have no solution so I push on anyway, as I avoid these as much as I can. Problems get me down, and I feel so overwhelmed that I'm unable to resolve anything. 7. HOW WELL DO YOU ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY? More than anything else, responsibility is an attitude and a way of thinking. People who routinely live responsibly are those who take ownership for everything they do and are willing to be accountable, especially when they make mistakes. The paradox is that the more responsibility you take, the more in-control you are going to be. This is by accepting responsibility, you automatically take on the power to fix things. WHEN SOMETHING GOES WRONG ... I take ownership, feel accountable and accept responsibility for everything that happens to me Most of the time I take ownership, feel accountable and accept responsibility for what happens to me When I'm being attacked and/or put down, I cope by ignoring it and continuing to do the best I can regardless. I feel frustrated and angry when people take advantage of me especially when it is not my fault. I am trapped and can't stop what's happening to me. I can't be responsible because it's not my fault.Press "Submit" to watch your result.