THE CHALLENGE TO RESOLVE AT THE SOURCE
RELATIONSHIPS ARE A PERSONAL BAROMETER
WHAT ARE YOURS SAYING ABOUT YOU?
ARE YOU BEING DESTROYED OR ESCALATED TO GREATER SUCCESS?
How emotionally connected are you to your partner, your friends, your family, your work colleagues and ultimately with yourself? How open or closed are you. Relationships succeed when connections are open. Closed connections keep people stuck.
Why are you with your life-partner? Is this person challenging you to move forward, backwards or are you just staying you stuck?
Is your connection to yourself open? With open self-connections you can connect profoundly with others. But when you’re closed you’re not connecting so well and this is when great relationships turn into disaster zones.
Whether you stay or go depends on having strategies to deal with emotion. The goal is to for intuitive feelings to dominate your thinking because emotional thinking is a lousy strategy.
If you’re relationship is stuck, you need to get unstuck, because if you don’t, you and it will stay stuck.
WHEN YOU ARE STUCK:
Mindset is dominated by feelings such as anxiety, depression, anger, fear, low self-esteem, low self-confidence, lethargy, frustration and failure.
Your relationships are likely to be fraught with arguments, conflicts, verbal violence, physical violence, emotional violence, negative and closed communication, plus physical and/or mental illness.
Your behaviours are likely to be driven by deeply held fears of being unable to cope with challenges, plus a heart-felt need to avoid potential problems whenever possible.
You see your difficulties as being someone else’s fault and feel like attacking them.
The difficulties in the relationship are in fact an accurate expressions of both partners not having effective strategies for resolving the emotional issues.
If all or some of this is you, then you are not on a great path. What you need are strategies to turn this around, before you take actions you can’t reverse.
WHEN YOU ARE FREE:
Mindset is dominated by feelings such as joy, happiness, laughter, self-confidence, high self-esteem, vitality, excitement and success.
Partners in relationships have powerful conversations, rational discussions, mutual support, intensive listening, positive and open communication, and stable physical health.
Your successes and behaviours are likely to be driven by deep personal confidences in your ability to handle problems and to take on challenges as they arise.
If all or most of the above is you, chances are that you’re on a productive path of personal growth and development. All you have to do now is have strategies in place to stay on this path where you stay focused, continue to take risks and make mistakes and still be able to win through.